5 Mistakes to Avoid When Planning a Wedding

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Planning a wedding can be one of the most stressful events in your life. It’s no wonder that it can turn the nicest women or men into complete monsters. Part of the problem is that planning any event takes a lot of work. For most people, it’s the first and perhaps only time they will ever organize an event on that scale. You could be inviting hundreds of guests, and that’s a lot of people to make happy. It’s meant to be one of the best days of your life, which is a lot of pressure to create the perfect experience. When you’re planning, make sure you don’t make these mistakes.

Doing Things in the Wrong Order

It can be hard to know when to do what when you get started on your planning. Your first instinct is probably to find a venue so that you can lock in your date. Of course, you want to cement when the big day will be as soon as you can. But hold off on booking your venue until you have a better idea of your guest list. Of course, you won’t be anywhere near ready to have the final numbers yet. However, just because you won’t get your RSVPs for a while, it doesn’t mean you can’t come up with an estimate. You can at least work out how many people you want to invite, even if you’re not sure who’s coming yet.

Neglecting to Include Your Partner

A wedding is often seen as the bride’s big day. It’s hardly surprising when so many of them have been encouraged to dream of their wedding day since they were little girls. However, it takes two people to get married – at least, most of the time. There need to be two people involved in planning the wedding because it’s a special day for both of them. Of course, one of you might be more interested in the planning than the other. Still, you can make sure you both pitch in. It’s important not just so that you can both have a say, but also so that not just one of you is doing all the hard work.

Not Establishing Guest Rules

There are a couple of important rules you should establish when you create your guest list. The first is your plus one policy. It may be tempting to choose randomly who gets to bring a date and who has come on their own. However, this can seem unfair and leave some of your guests feeling snubbed. It’s best to be consistent with a clear rule. Etiquette dictates that people in established, long-term relationships get to bring their significant other. You might also decide that all adults get to bring someone. Or maybe anyone dating for a certain period can bring their partner.

The other rule you need to establish is whether your wedding will be child-friendly or child-free. Ideally, it will be one or the other. If you say no children but then allow an exception, you might hear some grumblings from other guests.

Not Bothering with the Legal Details

Getting married can involve signing a lot more contracts than you might expect. You’ll be meeting with people from the venue and a whole host of other wedding vendors. You might be in a rush to get everything in place, but don’t neglect the contracts. You need to read them over before you sign on the dotted line. If they’re not your sort of thing, ask someone else to look at them for you.

Speaking of legal matters, don’t forget about the marriage license. It may seem surprising, but plenty of couples get it wrong and end up without a valid license on the big day. You need to research the rules. For example, in Ohio the license is valid for 60 days, so don’t get it more than two months before the wedding.

Not Taking Care of Everyone on the Big Day

While you’re planning the ceremony and reception, you might forget about how you’ll get to that point. Getting ready is a huge part of the day, and you don’t want it to feel too chaotic. One of the essential things to remember is to ensure everyone is taken care of. For example, don’t forget that everyone will need to eat. You don’t want anyone in the wedding party fainting because they haven’t had any food since breakfast.

Wedding planning can make you panic, but don’t let it send you into a tailspin. With the right organization and Brookshire’s help, you can plan your perfect day. Contact us today to book your venue!